Every other Tik Tok I watch loudly tells me that I need to have a, “Hot Girl Summer.” So, for starters…
After a brief but fruitful search, I found this from Urban Dictionary:
“Hot Girl Summer: …A summer full of fun…A summer where you are in charge of your own happiness.”
Well, there you have it. So, why is all the messaging telling us that “Hot Girl Summer” is about the way we look this summer?
Let’s clear this up once and for all, “Hot Girl Summer” is not about how you look this summer. It is about experiencing life, enjoying moments, and NOT worrying about the way you look.
If you are being you this summer, then you are having the elusive, “Hot Girl Summer.” Or “Hot Guy Summer.” Or “Hot Person Summer.” Whatever you want.
As I have been keeping up with Tik Tok lingo from Meg the Stallion songs, I have also had a massive shift. A huge breakthrough.
It is so normal to think of summer in terms of how we look. We think things like, “I’m gonna get fit for the summer.” “I have to get my bikini body ready for summer.” “This is the summer I am gonna lose the weight.” “I’m gonna have a ‘Hot Girl Summer’.”
I’ve been guilty of this too. I remember being a teenager and fantasizing about going away to camp and losing weight, only to come back to school in the fall looking like a new me.
How many summers did I spend worrying about how I looked, instead of the experiences I was having. Judging myself from the outside, instead of actually living in the moment.
But, here’s the deal, BY DEFINITION, hot girl summer is about what you do, not how you look.
Your worth has nothing to do with the way you look and neither do your experiences. Stop equating the two. In fact, the way you look, your appearance, is the least interesting thing about you. And anyone that says any differently is grappling with their own insecurities.
Let this be the summer you live in the moment. You stop looking in the mirror and start looking at the world around you.
Does that not sound like magic?
It is not easy or effortless to get to this place. I am so grateful for the work I’ve done in my relationship with myself. I have called on self-trust, self-compassion, and honored everything I am. It’s never perfect, but it’s always sincere and full of grace.
Take a moment. Step outside. Feel the sun on your face and the ground under your feet. You are worthy of adventure, of laughter, of sandy beaches and mountain hikes, of backyard cookouts and water-side meals, of quiet moments and rowdy gatherings. You are worthy of it all, as you are right now. No assembly required.
Nothing is more rewarding the realizing this for myself, and getting to help others do the same.
If you are tired of living on the sidelines, worrying about how you look instead of living in the moment, book a free discovery call with me.
We will work together to deepen self-trust, self-compassion, and make the brain space and heart space for you to step into your life, mind, body, and soul.
I’d love to support you on this journey.